So this is the one thing that I have looked forward to the WHOLE week .. A week that has been the usual up and down .. with some added ‘challenges’ for good measure …
I go to the hairdresser on average – every 6 weeks .. occasionally I have to make it on the fifth week ..
It’s my ‘thing’ … getting my hair done .. along with coffee with friends – one of my greatest pleasures.
I can live without lots of luxuries, but hairdressing is in my blood .. literally ..
My grandmother was a hairdresser .. My Thursday night / Saturday Morning job throughout High School and in the first year of my marriage was in a Hairdressing Salon (I even commenced an apprenticeship – but sadly my hands couldn’t cope with the chemicals) .. I also have a sister who is a hairdresser. I was happy to sweep the floor, dust stock, even enjoyed the smell of the solutions, shampoos etc ..
Now .. I find the 1 1/2 hours spent there therapeutic. The decision to keep my current style VS a new one thought about frequently .. Maybe even a new colour ?
I enjoy the scalp massage at the basin as my cares are washed away down the drain for at least 10 minutes … I feel fresh and invigorated when I leave ..
I think that part of the attraction is the people connection .. you form a relationship with your hairdresser.
You have to trust that they will listen to you .. That they can interpret what you mean when you say you only want a ‘little bit’ off .. (because a ‘little bit’ to me – might mean a ‘lot’ to you) … Hairdressers are also artists in my opinion .. so I need to connect with their STYLE of creativity..
My trip to the hairdresser reminds me of the importance of communication in any relationship … of both parties knowing where they stand .. Of feeling comfortable to be honest ..
Not all relationships have that kind of maturity – some people are highly sensitive, and others insensitive ..
Some have no verbal filter and their thoughts just pop out … Some are very caring, others self absorbed.
But .. the only person in the whole world – that I know with certainty – that I can have any influence in changing …
That is so important for me to remember.
It will help me overcome the frustrations of expecting something different from someone who is not capable of –
or ready for
My only hope of having any peace in my life – is to please the very one who created me – by treating others – the same way I want to be treated …
EVEN if they don’t respond in kind ..
Not that I have to be a doormat – I can still speak honestly and not allow myself to be pushed around. But there is definitely a respectful way to do that. It is called ‘speaking the truth in love’…
and this is what the Bible has to say about it.
Ephesians 4:15 Amplified Bible (AMP)
15 Rather, let our lives lovingly [a]express truth [in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly]. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him Who is the Head, [even] Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).