Broken and Bruised

So .. I decided NOT to attach a photo to today’s Blog Post …

You may ask why???

Well ….  It’s because I decided that being broken and bruised looks very different to each of us ..

Some days it’s physical and visible ..

And other days it’s emotional – on our heart, or a mental battle – for our thoughts.

It might be all three at once.

However pain appears in each of our lives – it is no less real or any less important.

To the one who is enduring a shock diagnosis,  or to the relative or friend that wants to comfort them ..
The family member suffering depression or mental illness .. a job loss .. an accident .. a struggle at work ..
The Mum raising small children or helping keep teenagers on track .. the Dad doing overtime to make ends meet.
A broken relationship …

Life can be really hard.

There are no quick or easy solutions.

I know – for me,  the loving support of a friend – who – just by listening to me, is often the soothing balm that helps me survive the day ..

Plenty of times I have cried out to God in prayer .. and I am reassured that He hears me even if a solution isn’t instant – or the answer that I was hoping for.
This reassurance has come as I have learned to rely on God .. knowing my own limitations .. flaws .. and failures .. and accepting that I don’t have to be perfect or assume every body else’s expectations of me ..
These things have only come as I understand who God is .. and allow and accept His purpose for my life ..

If you don’t yet know who God is .. I would encourage you to read one of what are called ‘The Gospels’ ,

(Matthew, Mark, Luke or John) ..

I personally have never read the Bible from cover to cover, but have read or studied verses and chapters .. either on my own – or as a part of a small group. Both are really helpful.

You can also buy ‘study guides’.. that focus on a particular subject -and use verses from the Bible – which relate to that subject .. Again – an exceptionally helpful way to understand things from Gods perspective ..

I have verses which mean a lot to me – that I find an encouragement –

‘I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me.’

Psalm 16:8

My all time fave is : 

Proverbs 3:5,6

‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
 Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

and on a Sunday evening – the encouragement from my Church family is

‘ If God is for us, who can ever be against us?’ Romans 8:31

reading the Bible isn’t a magic formula for happiness and success – but it is the best way to understand who God is, who Jesus is .. and why your story is so important ..

It is accepting Jesus as saviour .. that opens the way for you to have a real and personal relationship with Him .. and it’s the fresh start that we all need 🙂

More than just Hair ….

So this is the one thing that I have looked forward to the WHOLE week .. A week that has been the usual up and down .. with some added ‘challenges’ for good measure …

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I go to the hairdresser on average – every 6 weeks .. occasionally I have to make it on the fifth week ..

It’s my ‘thing’ … getting my hair done .. along with coffee with friends – one of my greatest pleasures.
I can live without lots of luxuries, but hairdressing is in my blood .. literally ..
My grandmother was a hairdresser .. My Thursday night / Saturday Morning job throughout High School and in the first year of my marriage was in a Hairdressing Salon (I even commenced an apprenticeship – but sadly my hands couldn’t cope with the chemicals) .. I also have a sister who is a hairdresser. I was happy to sweep the floor, dust stock, even enjoyed the smell of the solutions, shampoos etc ..

Now .. I find the 1 1/2 hours spent there therapeutic. The decision to keep my current style VS a new one thought about frequently .. Maybe even a new colour ?

I enjoy the scalp massage at the basin as my cares are washed away down the drain for at least 10 minutes … I feel fresh and invigorated when I leave ..

I think that part of the attraction is the people connection .. you form a relationship with your hairdresser.

You have to trust that they will listen to you .. That they can interpret what you mean when you say you only want a ‘little bit’ off .. (because a ‘little bit’ to me – might mean a ‘lot’ to you)  … Hairdressers are also artists in my opinion .. so I need to connect with their STYLE of creativity..

My trip to the hairdresser reminds me of the importance of communication in any relationship … of both parties knowing where they stand .. Of feeling comfortable to be honest ..

Not all relationships have that kind of maturity – some people are highly sensitive, and others insensitive ..

Some have no verbal filter and their thoughts just pop out … Some are very caring, others self absorbed.

But .. the only person in the whole world – that I know with certainty – that I can have any influence in changing …

is

ME

That is so important for me to remember.

It will help me overcome the frustrations of expecting something different from someone who is not capable of

or ready for

CHANGE …

My only hope of having any peace in my life – is to please the very one who created me – by treating others – the same way I want to be treated …

EVEN if they don’t respond in kind ..

Not that I have to be a doormat – I can still speak honestly and not allow myself to be pushed around. But there is definitely a respectful way to do that. It is called ‘speaking the truth in love’…

and this is what the Bible has to say about it.

Ephesians 4:15 Amplified Bible (AMP)

15 Rather, let our lives lovingly [a]express truth [in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly]. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him Who is the Head, [even] Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

oh me … oh my ….

OK .. Saturday morning here … feeling dreadfully sorry for myself …

So tired … so much to do .. pitying myself for my current circumstances .. and whilst my tiredness may very well be due to ‘over commitment’ …

never the less ..

I am exhausted …

And yet a ‘No’  .. or ‘I can’t’ .. are almost impossible for me to speak forth …

So .. I really don’t know what the answer is .. I am wrapped up in not wanting to let other’s down ..

I suspect – after a helpful chat with my ‘soul sister ‘ last night that my desire to help may be tangled in a need for approval … not that she had to say a thing .. but just through our conversation I am able to soak in the wisdom of her life lessons ..

I don’t like to let other’s down … I am loathe to see them struggle.  I want their lives to be a little easier .. lighter .. for them not to have the burden that I felt as a young parent .. and I guess that whilst my motives are good .. I  may need to take stock ..

I am HEARING all the ‘i’s’ in that sentence … like a lesson from an English teacher …

MAYBE .. it IS  all about me and my needs ..???

Ouch …

What I am thankful for in all of this morning’s thinking is …

The blessing of friendship… a mature and non judgmental ‘grown up’ friendship ..

For chats that go everywhere .. that make me think .. and challenge me .. that encourage me and lighten my spirit ..

Self pity unnecessary and thankfully short lived today  … (although I am not always such a fast learner) …

I pray that each of us may be blessed with a special .. once – in-a- lifetime friendship ….

And .. most importantly .. that we will have a friendship with Jesus …

Greater love has no one than this : to lay down one’s life for one’s friends ‘ John 15:12-14 …