W H A T ….

What happens when someone you care about, seems unable to be reached ???

Your heart is in anguish because you want to reach them … They seem distant – Or are really struggling themselves .. Or just want space .. or time .. or to be alone ?

It is tough .. You may feel spurned or rejected .. Or inadequate .. Or just plain sad, that you know that they are hurting, but still want to unplug or disconnect …

In those moments, days .. weeks .. or even years – How do you cope or deal with this ?

It may be a parent / child relationship – or your spouse, a sibling or a friend.

The pain you feel is no less real – whatever the connection.

As a woman, I believe our hearts desire is to want to fix things

and we ache when this seems to be out of our control.

Or it may be that WE are the ones who need to pull back, because our lives are complicated or overwhelmed and we are being pulled in many directions.

Sometimes these are short seasons of our lives .. and other times, it feels like they will … never … end …

I have no magic solution … I tread the same path as you.

Life is a complex and complicated array of relationships, events and circumstances.

Some days I get up and bound out of bed without fear of what lies ahead, and on others I go through the motions – wishing that I could pull the covers over my head and stay inside my cosy home away from the BIG, wide world outside my four walls.

One thing that I have learned, is that I cannot do life on my own.

I need girlfriends, family, friends and prayer to support and sustain me in the craziness of life.

And even more – this life is NOT all about me … No .. really … it’s not … 🙂

I am comforted to be a part of a Church family who are local and who care. They keep me honest and accountable.

I know that plugging in to the Bible – breathes encouragement into my mind and heart. Yet I often busy myself and it’s not the first place that I turn. I want AND need to get better at this – because based on my own experience – when I make the effort to seek God in prayer and through His word – my life is more balanced and manageable – Please note that I didn’t say easier 🙂

Some verses which I find encouraging , from the New International Version Bible (NIV)

‘ We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair;’ 2 Corinthians 4:8

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.’ Joshua 1:9

He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.’  Isaiah 40:29

I know if you have a dig around in God’s word – that you won’t have to look far to find more encouragement. Please feel free to share with me – your own favourite verses 🙂











Broken and Bruised

So .. I decided NOT to attach a photo to today’s Blog Post …

You may ask why???

Well ….  It’s because I decided that being broken and bruised looks very different to each of us ..

Some days it’s physical and visible ..

And other days it’s emotional – on our heart, or a mental battle – for our thoughts.

It might be all three at once.

However pain appears in each of our lives – it is no less real or any less important.

To the one who is enduring a shock diagnosis,  or to the relative or friend that wants to comfort them ..
The family member suffering depression or mental illness .. a job loss .. an accident .. a struggle at work ..
The Mum raising small children or helping keep teenagers on track .. the Dad doing overtime to make ends meet.
A broken relationship …

Life can be really hard.

There are no quick or easy solutions.

I know – for me,  the loving support of a friend – who – just by listening to me, is often the soothing balm that helps me survive the day ..

Plenty of times I have cried out to God in prayer .. and I am reassured that He hears me even if a solution isn’t instant – or the answer that I was hoping for.
This reassurance has come as I have learned to rely on God .. knowing my own limitations .. flaws .. and failures .. and accepting that I don’t have to be perfect or assume every body else’s expectations of me ..
These things have only come as I understand who God is .. and allow and accept His purpose for my life ..

If you don’t yet know who God is .. I would encourage you to read one of what are called ‘The Gospels’ ,

(Matthew, Mark, Luke or John) ..

I personally have never read the Bible from cover to cover, but have read or studied verses and chapters .. either on my own – or as a part of a small group. Both are really helpful.

You can also buy ‘study guides’.. that focus on a particular subject -and use verses from the Bible – which relate to that subject .. Again – an exceptionally helpful way to understand things from Gods perspective ..

I have verses which mean a lot to me – that I find an encouragement –

‘I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me.’

Psalm 16:8

My all time fave is : 

Proverbs 3:5,6

‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
 Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

and on a Sunday evening – the encouragement from my Church family is

‘ If God is for us, who can ever be against us?’ Romans 8:31

reading the Bible isn’t a magic formula for happiness and success – but it is the best way to understand who God is, who Jesus is .. and why your story is so important ..

It is accepting Jesus as saviour .. that opens the way for you to have a real and personal relationship with Him .. and it’s the fresh start that we all need 🙂

THE ‘ F ‘ WORD ……

Foggy Window

THE ‘ F ‘ Word …..

That word  .. It’s not what you think … Or Is it ????

IT threatens to strangle me .. Wraps it’s gnarly fingers around my mind …

Tangles my feet … trips me up …GRASPS at my  very  sense  of  self  worth …..

IT is a LABEL ….

F A I L U R E  ….. There .. I  said  it ….  darn it hurts !!!

It’s one of my struggles .. It’s more than a fear .. because I HAVE failed .. Often and repeatedly … Failed to do things that I should have. Failed by doing and saying things that I shouldn’t have.

Sadly I know that I will inevitably FAIL again …

Failure is a label .. We all have labels that we give ourselves – often unintentionally we place labels on ourselves – visualising how we think others see us .. clouding who we really are.

Sometimes we accept labels from our peers, from friends, from strangers .. our past …

We feel ‘labeled’ by society ..

The simple truth is .. I am much more than a label. I may be a wife, a mother, a worker, a shopper .. I might even occasionally be a ‘good person’ .. One day a ‘road rager’.. the next ???? #insert label here# ???

My point ? I AM COMPLEX .. yet incomplete if I label myself. Labeling myself is like getting stuck in the mud. It prevents me from moving forward.

If you find yourself in this predicament – get out quickly ..

God’s plan for you is bigger than ANY label will ever allow.

For me personally, I remind myself to be thankful for who God made me to be. For the people He has placed in my life – who are willing to love the real me. The changes and challenges that we encounter daily – allow God to grow us according to His plan. His huge, complex plan.

His plans for my life are way bigger than I could ever dream for my life ! Bigger than any stifling, suffocating label that I might stunt my life with.

The picture at the top of todays blog page is an early morning view through the fogged up window of a truck .. a good analogy I think .. I need to change the limited view I have of life – by allowing God to wipe that windshield clear of the accumulated dust and grime, the things which fog my view of myself .. allowing Him to open wide my eyes to the clear road ahead ..

How do I do this ? Well a good start is getting my head where it should be – by endeavouring to read the Bible often. I would say DAILY – but I would be lying if I said I was good at doing that. I try .. Honestly I AM keen – but too often I get distracted by other things ‘Important’ things … Does that mean I am a FAILED Christian .. NO – I really don’t think so … but there is definitely scope for me to be more disciplined and focussed ..

I pray that you will too. In order that together – we might – in His strength – grow to live and love as Jesus did .. thus fulfilling God’s beautiful plan for our lives !

I am absolutely loving ‘The Message’ translation of the Bible – it has opened God’s word afresh to me ..

The words that I read this morning are beautiful and touched my heart as if spoken to me by Jesus ..

‘Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst. Our Father is kind; you be kind.’ Luke 6:35b-36 The Message.